What It’s Like To Have Anxiety

It’s like a shiver, growing in strength as it climbs from the tips of your fingers to the top of your shoulders. A fizzing of carbonated drinks rumbling right under the surface, with every pop follows a shiver. All you can do is imagine your bed and comfortable blanket and sweatshirt waiting for you at home, mere miles and hours in your future. “You can get through this,” you tell yourself. “Just keep going,” you say as you move through your necessary operations. You look at everyone else, envy building within your bones that they seem to be at ease. Maybe they’re nervous about an impending job interview or national test their future relies on, but their skin hasn’t broken out in cold telltale hives of your anxieties.

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Working ‘Till College Do Us Part

When May is coming, all college students can think of is the potential for adventure, fun and sleep during their summer months. No more homework or projects or whatnots.

Well, at least until your internship starts, you get hired at your summer job, and finding the time to split between your friends at home, from school, and all that family you missed out on during the school year. Suddenly, you’re sick of your own summer. When’s the right time to quit?

For each person this question differs. Obviously the money aspect plays a big role and everyone’s fiscal responsibilities vary according to need, want and current stature. So this question is very personal for many. If you need to keep working or work hours on end during the week, quitting your job early may not be the write solution for you. However, as long as friends and family, a good book or show to binge online surrounds you, you’ll get a little break until the academic calendar offers a little solace.

However, if you do not fall under that category, there are many variables you need to take into account.

Are you happy at your job?

This is a question that has many parts. Are your coworkers nice; are your bosses understanding; are you paid well enough for your task? If your answers to these questions are astounding yeses, then you may be happy to keep working. Considering how rare that is, enjoy it while it lasts. But if you’re counting down every hour from the moment you get in, your bosses haven’t listened or respected your requests, the pay isn’t worth the treatment and work you’ve completed, then maybe you shouldn’t stay there all summer. How many times have you been able to see the friends and family from home since starting work? Have you actually taken time to relax before the academic grind begins? Did you go on an adventure of sorts? Don’t loose your summer to a job.

Leave time to relax, to craft, to see friends, to explore, to do anything your young collegiate heart desires. You’ll be working when you’re back in school. If you can afford it and need it, take some time for yourself.

How much time you need is up to you. If you hate your job, need some more money, but don’t want to loose your time at home to this paid task, why not quit a little before. A week, depending on how many things you want to do. Two weeks if you’re traveling or visiting friends and family. If you need that much time for the amount of events you want to complete this summer, do it. Take a month if at all possible.

Just remember to try and follow protocol. It’s never a bad thing to have another work reference or experience on your resume for the future. So try to at least give two weeks notice, more so if possible. Bring it up when you have their full attention. Tell them how grateful you were for this opportunity, even if you hated every second of it and are imagining the fanfare when you walk out. Explain that you need to start focusing on getting back to school, means it had nothing to do with them or your feelings towards them. And give an exact date of when your last day will be. Then, there will be no confusion of when to start the trumpeters.


The History of Curly Hair

Nowadays, luscious locks that spring from your scalp are sought after. But they weren’t always and even now, they’re not always appreciated.

Let’s take a step back in time for a moment, to the 1500s. Just eight years earlier, Christopher Columbus sailed the ocean blue and Henry VII was ruling over England and Wales with his wife Elizabeth of York, bringing peace to the two warring houses for nearly 15 years. Things were peaceful in Europe and people’s global curiosity was growing.

About hair however, people were less than curious. If you were wealthy, the curls might add some glamour to your extravagant styles and to hang over your rich crowns and clips. If you were a commoner, let alone a schoolgirl, your curls were pulled into a tight bun atop your head. It was believed that hair curled due to sins or evil within one. People were wary of those with curls, who knew what they were up to.

Skip to the 1600s, hair styles grew ever more extravagant and artificial. It could definitely be referred to as the Century of Wigs, with locks heavily powdered grey and clipped in circular pillars that surprisingly never sent them soaring in flight. Curly hair was still, more or less, not perceived in a positive or stylish light, but was passed and allowed as the Renaissance deepened into the Middle Ages.

As we wander through the 1700s, we follow the traditions set by our predecessor with wigs and powder now lasting two centuries through wars and revolutions. Our perception of hair stayed basically the same, to serve as a societal mark for class and prestige. For two centuries our locks of all shapes and colors were ignored as battles flared and governments rose.

In the 1800s, hairstyles could be described in one word, “up”. Braided and clipped up, loosely clipped up to one side, a ponytail with clips, clips here and there and bands everywhere. Hair was sashaying with the pioneers as they rocked back-and-forth traversing West in their hunt for gold. No one had time to spend on his or her hair, constructing houses and monitoring the harvest didn’t leave enough time in the day, let alone while caring for a family. So hair was over-looked and decidedly bland for everyone, the one tone of up hid any curious colors or shapes to be spotted or appreciated.

In the curve of the century time passed in decades, varying eras of styles and fashions. I’m sure plenty of you have seen videos of make-up styles, hair styles, wedding styles, this style, that style, of 100 years in a couple of minutes. If you have seen them, you’ll be thinking you saw curly hair there. And I agree with you, you saw curls, that’s correct, but you did not see curly hair. The bouncy locks you saw in those videos were not natural curls, the model’s hair was probably straightened and then curled to create those uniform loops or light wiggles.

It might surprise you to know, that up until very recently, society knew very little about curly hair. I myself grew up in a town completely confused by my spirals while once I stepped outside of it, people asked me constantly about my curls.

In 1984, a young woman who had created a name for herself in the hair industry opened her first salon in the heart of Manhattan. Ouidad, the name of the salon and of the woman. She began creating products specifically formulated to treat curly hair and have it growing strong and healthy. She had to create techniques on methods to properly cut the curls as to not damage the style or hang of them. She basically had to create the foundation for curls in society.

Even now, Ouidad is still creating and learning more and more about curly hair, what it needs and what works for it. She’s already deciphered four different types of curls and created countless products to treat all different types of problems, curls, and styles. Ouidad’s flagship salon is still open and highly functioning in New York City on 57th Street, another one in Santa Monica, California, and Fort Lauderdale Florida. Sadly, that’s not enough salons to help every curly haired girl and boy in the world, let alone the United States. And to speak frankly, not many can afford the services or products that Ouidad has to offer. Luckily, society is taking a strong learning curve to curly hair.

In January of 2015, Dove launched a “Love Your Curls” campaign to teach young girls to love their hair. Hair has curled for centuries and it has taken us until the 21st century to teach people to appreciate them. So many girls have already been lost to the heat of a straightening iron, to the comments of classmates, to the lack of information circulated to parents. Curls are incredible and beautiful and we should appreciate them.

I was the curly haired spawn of a thinning haired father and stick-straight hair mother. Although they tried as they did, they definitely were not educated in how to treat or handle my hair. Right out of the gate, I hated my curls. When I was around five or six-years-old, my parent’s took my brother and I to the family barber for a hair cut. And to this day, 15 years later, I can still remember the pain I felt as the barber pulled this dry comb through my hair. Before he could finish, I was sobbing on the floor grasping the right side of my head, I could feel my heartbeat and heat radiating into my palm.

After that, for years I couldn’t deal with going to another barber. For days after I couldn’t handle having a comb run through my hair, so it just knotted and sat atop my head. Which just fueled the fire of my, who I consider now-a-days naïve classmates, which just fueled my hatred for being born with these horrible curls. When I was finally ready to deal with my hair again, my mother took me to get a Brazilian relaxer. I was still young at this point, somewhere in Middle School and trusted my mother’s research and connections that this would be good for my hair. Wrong. A Brazilian relaxer is a strong chemical that basically chemically heats the hair into being straight because killed everything else within the lock. All nutrients, vibrancy, even texture is completely lost because your hair has basically been killed from the inside out. I guess it was better than the knot, but not by much.

I was lucky enough to have a friend with a curly haired mother who saw what happened to my hair and advised my mother to take me to Ouidad, they then spent years healing my hair as the dead ends grew out and they nurtured the incoming roots. My mother still wasn’t the best at advising with curly hair, when she was calling the shots, she kept having my hair relaxed in a healthier method. When I was able to take control of my own hair, I stopped that trend completely.

Because of my past I struggle everyday with being proud or courageous in my curls, but I love them all the same. I know I wouldn’t look good in straight hair and I really hate it when people ask me to try it. It’s not because I’ve come far with my confidence in my curls that I hate that question, it’s because it’s the constant reminder that people and society still don’t know much about curly hair. For many curls, straightening their hair even once can damage it for months up to years as the burned follicles grow out. Yet I should know how wonderful dry shampoo is for straight hair people and that they should always carry that or leave-in conditioner after the beach and pool.

Benny Harlem is trying to change that. A native Californinan artist has been documenting his and his daughter’s hair on Instagram to show the world what untreated or undamaged hair looks like. Using his photos, he’s trying to change the perception of natural hair and really highlight its beauty and wonder. Showing the potential for the hair and the demand to welcome natural hair and all hairs into stylish society.

Benny Harlem is making a statement, now it’s time to offer education for parents and friends and family. If I need to hear all about your dandruff shampoo and beach wave sprays, isn’t it only fair if you hear about our defusers and deep treatments?

Art, Style

Surviving Festival Season: Concerts, Tours and All

You’ve waited for months, ever since you saw the lineup and qued up your computer in class to be the first to buy tickets. Congratulations, you’ve finally made it! The summer concert season is in full swing.

A huge gathering of artists sharing their craft for appreciative audiences, what is more beautiful than that? Reaching for your wallet to purchase that CD or band tee to find it missing from bag, is that beautiful too?

Here are some tips and tricks to surviving the concerts and tours with more than you showed up with.

  1. The Perfect Bag

I wish I could tell you all to wear a fanny pack with little locks on them, but even I refuse to do that. I know all of my belongings would be safer, but my pride would be ruined. There’s a certain appearance for each concert and festival one tries to create and attain and we’re not going to just ruin that for fanny packs.

People argue constantly on which is better, a purse or a backpack? When in all reality, if you choose wisely and use smartly, both are very effective and safe.

The first rule in choosing a bag: nothing open. I know you can get things easily, but so can others. Secondly, nothing loose. If your backpack is longer than your back, you’re not going to feel anything going on back there. The same goes for purses, tight straps across your body or smothered into your side. It’s like being your own doorman to your gear, you’ll know exactly who is going in and out of the realm of your possessions. And third and lastly to conquering your safety bag when swaying with hundreds of others to the beat, never keep your wallet easily accessible. At the bottom of your bag is best. If it’s not easy for you, it won’t be easy for anyone else. It’s not like you can’t get it, but you’re being smart about it.

  1. What to Bring?

Let’s think about this for a moment, truly consider the situations and scenarios you most definitely will be faced with and the one’s that could potentially happen. You’re going to get thirsty, fact. You’re going to want money, fact. It will be loud and bright, fact. So a bottle of water is needed, your wallet without a doubt, some ibuprofen would be smart, and sunglasses as well.

You could fall or spend the concert being kicked by overly-enthusiastic audience members so a small first aid kit with cleansing wipes and band-aids is smart. Did you check the forecast the day before? Is rain in your future or wind or shine? Plan accordingly.

The two final things to remember, make sure you have room for basic items you’ll also have to carry around as well. This includes house keys, car keys, back-up phone chargers and some memory cards. And under it all, you should find your wallet.

  1. What to Wear

I understand there is a fashion of tours and concerts, but weather is still a factor. Especially if it’s all day long, if you’re standing, and outside in the sun all day and night. Light and comfortable is best, even better if worn right from the start. If not, have options available. Wearing heels on grass for 8 hours isn’t practical, I don’t care what Sex & The City says. You start out in heels; you better bring flats with you.

Layers are great for winter, during testing seasons and for summer as well. Light layers, like a bandeau, a tank top and sweater are recommended. When it’s scorching and you’re boiling, you’re set until the wind comes flying your way and even then you’re set.

Make-up however, I know you don’t want to go out without it, it’s such a perfect photo opportunity, but if you’re smart, you shouldn’t have a problem. Wearing light coverage concealer, loose powder and sure long lasting products on your eyes will be best. Make sure not to touch your face often, especially if you’re sweating. Otherwise instead of being miraculous with the band, you could be smeared or breaking out from the sweaty make-up being re-absorbed into your pores. And even if all of that didn’t persuade you, how about the fact that the less you wear on your face, the easier it will be to breathe and, as a result, keep yourself cool.

Now go out and enjoy the music!


Decision Making: Tips and Techniques to Improve Your Form

To some people, I may seem decisive. To others, they’ve probably never seen me set down a firm decision. Always yielding to the people around me, whether it be the cuisine for a dinner out with friends or a subject matter I didn’t know much about or have experience with. I wasn’t born decisive. And quite frankly, I don’t think anyone was. Either way, I’ve learned some things through the many decisions I have and have not made.

First off, not every right decision will lead to happiness. At least, not immediately. That must be accepted first and foremost. If you think the right answer and happiness are synonymous, you might have been making the wrong decision all along. Take breakups for example, I doubt they’re easy for either partner, but the decision was made probably for the better. Your heart will catch up to your decision, just not instantaneously.

Something else I’ve learned is that information will always be the North Star in the decision making process. Even if it’s an emotional decision, it’s grounding to have some sort of fact to connect your brain to whatever is going on in your heart. The hormonal and the logical will balance out when the right decision is made.

I want to clarify that being indecisive does not mean not having a backbone, and vice versa. But it also can be said, that you can have or be without both. This one, I do not have personal experience with. However, I have watched other’s struggle with indecisiveness and kindness to the point of fault.

Surviving in this world is simple: food, water, air, and sleep. Thriving in this world and being happy requires more. You can’t yield to everyone or everything. Being nice does not mean falling for what others say. Being nice does not mean someone’s problems are worse. Being nice does not mean letting yourself be unhappy because someone else needs you more. Being nice means treating people with respect; the same respect you want to be treated with. Being nice is taking an interest and asking the questions you want to be asked. Being nice is standing by a friend; a friend who is just as nice to you.

Just as there are people who are nice to a fault, there are people who are opportunistic to a fault. Or in a less euphemistic way, bratty personalities; spoiled characters that require the attention. These are the people who lead decisions and take advantage of those without the spine. And these you should be wary of.

If you’re saying or thinking false justification lines like “It’s only for right now, it will pass,” until it happens again or “they just don’t fully understand,” although you’ve explained it time and time again in various different forms and volumes. Then you’re in denial and you know you’re in denial. Imagine this article as your best friend slapping you awake. These lines are tiresome and old and it’s time to change your game.

If you’re in an intimate relationship with this person, please make decisions about what you want. Make the decision for you, not for anyone else. The decision for you is what leads to happiness. If you’re in a platonic relationship with this person, remember that any person can be kept at any length and you hold the key to the power of you. Listen to your heart, listen to your brain, and find the right decision for you, then happiness will follow.

I don’t think I can say the following statement enough, but being nice or indecisive or both does not lower your IQ. Even if you’ve never studied any subject in your life, you are an expert in yourself. Don’t let someone take advantage of you, whether it be what to eat for dinner or whether to stay in the relationship.


Symptoms of a Tattoo Obsession and How To Treat It


  1. Stalking Tattoo Artists (STA)
    1. With social media and the art of networking, it’s not too hard to find tattoo artists or their work online. Sooner or later, your Instagram and Twitter feed becomes filled with inked limbs. If your feed is at least one half about tattoos and specific artists, then you may be stalking. If you have designs or specific artists in mind for future projects, you can classify it as research for future services and being well-educated, until those projects actually occur, you’re still stalking.
  2. Compulsive Body Doodling (CBD)
    1. Is half of your pen’s ink expended on the inside of your wrist, hand, above the knee and in your elbow? Do you know which pen brands sit better on the skin? If flower petals have ordained your knuckles and half mandalas crowned your knee, you may be a compulsive doodler. Testing the location for a tattoo, the position, how it fits your body and if you still like it the next day.
  3. Media Tattoo Addictions (MTA)
    1. Buzzfeed: the catch-all news source and compilation of social experiments for millenials nowadays, and to our luck, Buzzfeed actually has numerous videos on the matter. Testing the waters of people’s first tattoo, cover-ups, surprise tattoos, matching tattoos, broaching it with parents, pranking people, temporary tattoos and so on and so forth. You know when your YouTube recommended page is filled with tattoo videos and social experiments about such and you’ve seen them all, you have a problem. If you binge watch every season of Ink Master and stay up late for Tattoo Nightmares, that may also be a symptomatic clue that you’re addicted.
  4. Persistent Conceptualization Tattoos (PCT)
    1. Have you texted your friends excited because you got this great idea for a tattoo that would look awesome in this location and it means something important to you? Have you done this on multiple occasions? Are you regularly starting conversations with your friends about such? Or just sending images you stole from your crowded Instagram about this tattoo you found and now want? I think it goes without saying that you have Persistent Conceptualization of Tattoos.


Humans have been painting their skin for centuries, as a form of social status and now more commonly seen as a form of artistic expression. You could say that tattoos have had one of the longest lasting fashion trends. For as long there has been humans and ink, they have been combined.

In a recent study, the FDA found that 45 million Americans have tattoos. With pop culture ever changing and growing, the number seems to be rising by the second. Tattoos have become an integral part of society and culture, as shown in the media, with celebrities, athletes, business tycoons, even Kindergarten teachers have full sleeves nowadays. All in all, it seems like tattoos are being welcome into society with open arms, but there is still some push back.

To help your friend or family member experiencing Tattoo Obsession, support them. It is always better to express yourself, give yourself reminders about things you love and create memories for a lifetime. Tattoos are normal. To accept that and support your friend and family member is the best support you can offer.

If you feel the need or would like to do more in their quest to be inked, make sure that the patient is doing research on the tattoos, the tattoo artists, the parlors, reviews and how sanitary they are. Although tattoos are common practice, they are still a business that should be taken with caution. Verify everything, avoid infection or being stuck with a horrible tattoo.

As the patient, make sure to conceptualize the tattoo and give it time. We’re all evolving beings, you could change in the next three months and the tattoo idea may no longer apply to you. You may still want it. You may not. Some articles recommend you think about it for at least a year while others advise on six months. If you’re someone who’s very decided, a year may be too long for your mind. If you’re someone who’s very indecisive, you may need more than a year and many photoshopped photos to decide. Whatever is best for you and your mindset. But when you know in your heart what tattoo you want, get it. There’s nothing wrong with being inked.


Picking Your Candidate: The Guide to Political Romance

Elections are a form of declaration; a chance for the country to proudly proclaim, “This is what we want, this is what we need.” However, we can only proudly proclaim that as a nation when everyone within our borders has put forth their own opinions. To do so requires some new legislation and education. If we want to tackle these education issues, we need to learn about the problems, candidates and proposed solutions.

Let’s stage the current scene: May 15, 2016 and we have three politicians trying to court our vote for power. Who do you believe can push America into the future?

 Step 1: Scroll Through the Profiles

First, let’s take a look at our politicians. If you’re unfamiliar with the candidates at hand, don’t go in-depth when you start. As you watch debates or listen to promotions, you’ll learn more information about their characters and their policies. Always start with a dating profile of information on each candidate. Who is your choice for America’s soul mate?

Bernie_Sanders_(20033841412_24d8796e44_c0)Candidate: Bernie Sanders

Political Party: Democrat

Position: Senator

From: Vermont



25349687914_da06ccbe7d_bCandidate: Hillary Clinton

Political Party: Democrat

Position: Former Secretary of State

From: New York

Candidate: Donald Trump

Political Party: Republican

Position: Entrepreneur

From: New York



Step 2: Find Shared Interests

Everyone has ‘must haves’ for love, or even solely for attraction. Establishing what those requirements are, are crucial. Like any relationship, the one with your politician requires open and vocal communication. They need to know what you want, so they can deliver. Otherwise, your relationship may be doomed from the start.

Many people feel limited by their political choices—either because of the party they subscribe to or by the media focus on certain issues—whatever the reason may be, try to start out with an open mind. Otherwise, your predispositions or prejudices may cloud your focus from the issues that really matter.

A great way to do this is by taking an online quiz. It’s literally the compatibility quiz of politics without the limitations of party or media. In the end, you’ll receive your political best match.

Step 3: Listen to Experts

We’ve all asked our friends for advice before. What would they do in this situation; how would they handle this problem. Those habits shouldn’t change when referring to politics. Conversation and even argumentation is key; by talking to friends, foes, teachers, to anyone around, you discover different perspectives or variables you hadn’t thought of before.

We’re also a society of tradesman. We have doctors for when we need healing, engineers for when we need innovative building and we have political scientists to investigate the truth behind all the proposals and promises our politicians make.

Let’s take an example issue: the funding for Planned Parenthood.

  1. I believe the government should fund Planned Parenthood.
  2. I believe the government should lower the funding of Planned Parenthood.
  3. I believe the government should stop funding Planned Parenthood.

Planned Parenthood is a global non-profit organization that offers basic healthcare, education, and the option for a safe and legal abortion. At this moment, the government funds for their facilities. They also receive funding from personal donations.

This is a main focus issue within this election and often, with passionate issues such as these, people become blinded by their own biased opinions. So we need to call on experts for help deciphering what these decisions could affect.

  1. What are the statistics and facts about Planned Parenthood?

I recommend collecting information, starting in the form of quantitative data. Numbers have no bias and can either confirm or deny one’s opinions.

  1. How large of a role does Planned Parenthood play in our economy?
  2. How many people rely on Planned Parenthood?
  3. Where would Planned Parenthood’s funding go?
  4. Could our society handle or stabilize the burst of citizens without healthcare because of the defunding of Planned Parenthood?

There are variables after variables that need to be taken into account. Unless you have a degree in the field or study in-depth the numbers and hypothetical situations, how validated are we with our own opinions?

This is where the media comes in handy. Talk show after talk show, newspaper article after newspaper article, even YouTube shows, all these mediums quote experts and their findings. So read up during your commute to work or listen to the radio at the gym. The benefit of an opinionated society in a technological age, we’re always finding new ways to share our thoughts. You have a wide array of options and people to choose from.

It only takes three simple steps for a political affair for the ages. Get educated, support your candidate and move America forward. It’s our duty and honor. Not everyone has this possibility within America or around the world, so appreciate it for the gift that it is. Voting is a chance to make a difference, one with an impact on your life as you know it and on thousands of others. Who do you support?